Many men would rather die than be treated like a “weakling.” This is another form of misogyny, and it’s killing us.
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Election day is less than 80 days away, and what better way to show your support than with useful/necessary products with the faces/logos of your favorite presidential candidate.
Obama and Romney certainly think so, because they are hitting the ladies hard with their 2012 Campaign Stores. But now that the Comeback Kids are on their way, these new Romney/Ryan gift totes may just tip the scales. Check out the sweet merch they want all American females and their friends to have. (But especially females. &#$@ they need your vote.) Read More »
This probably sounds so obvious that it should go without saying, but if you’re a straight guy, you probably shouldn’t go see Magic Mike in the theater.
Whitney had been excited to see the movie for weeks, and although I didn’t exactly share her sentiment, I agreed to go with her. I wasn’t quite ready to admit the reasons that I didn’t want to see the movie, and I knew that any other reason would make me seem homophobic.
Sitting through Magic Mike was an extremely uncomfortable experience for me. It wasn’t because of the scene where Matthew McConaughey gyrated behind Alex Pettyfer as he taught him how to dance. It wasn’t because of the scene where Joe Manganiello pumped up his blurry penis before going onstage. It wasn’t because of any of the homoerotic themes of the movie which, in my opinion wasn’t nearly gay enough for something hyped as The Greatest Gay Movie Ever Made – I mean, I don’t recall a single openly gay character in the movie.
No, what made me uncomfortable was the audience of middle-aged women shouting catcalls at the screen the entire time. It felt to me like the subtext was a simple “women get objectified on screen all the time, now it’s our turn, ladies!”
As Melissa from Power Animals put it so gleefully…
I could say that while I feel bad that we are entering a time when young men are having just as many body issues as females because of the increasingly unrealistic body images out there for both genders, I feel it is the only way men can understand the pressure that the male gaze in media puts on women and thus help us all work towards mutual change. I could say a lot of things about the objectification of women and men and what it means for all of us but what I’m going to really go ahead and say is this: ABS! CHESTS! GYRATIONS! DANCING! CHANNING TATUM’S AWFUL ACTING: WHO CARES! ALCIDE!!!!!!!
As the women in the audience hooted and hollered, I felt my sympathy for any woman who ever complained about objectification shrink.
Women take snacking very, very seriously. Before we put anything in our mouths, we always ask, “Does this align with our values? Our family values?” (Reminder: all women are mothers.) Well, that answer was a strong, “NO!” when we came across this little gem from the Nabisco family… pfff family. No family company would ever make something like this:
You guys, it’s a rainbow Oreo cookie! Are you freaked out yet? Why aren’t you freaked out yet?! Don’t you know what this means? Rainbow = Gay. Gay = Rainbow. Rainbow Oreo = Gay Oreo. Gay Oreo = Gay Snacking. You are what you eat. You eat that Oreo and you’re going to become a gay. *slaps cookie out of hand* Don’t eat that! That’s how they get you! Phew. Okay, listen, if you want to keep you, your lady and your children safe: Never taste the rainbow.
Luckily, this was just a temporary photoshopped stunt, so Oreos are safe for consumption again… but what about the foods that are always rainbowed?
“Manliness is not all swagger and swearing and mountain climbing. Manliness is also tenderness and gentleness and consideration.”
- Tea and Sympathy (1956)
“Men who are confident in their masculinity and have a feeling of well-being in themselves don’t have to kick in doors, mistreat women, or make fun of gays.”
“Guys. Real talk. If you identify as a man, then you’re a man. That’s not something you can accidentally lose by doing the wrong thing. It’s not something someone else can take away. It will not be revoked if you forget to man around like a manly man at all times. Your manhood is safe. Fuckin’ relax.”
A lot has been said about the pussification of today’s generation of men and I think I’ve pin-pointed the beginning of the end. It all started in 1974, with this ad for Roman Brio aftershave.
Notice how the man in the ad admits that he’s willing to try playing backgammon. Granted, he knew well enough to distance himself from the limp-wristed backgammon by assuring the reader that he’s a poker player at heart. With its emphasis on reading body language, emotional cues, and other nonverbal communications, poker is truly an exercise in manliness. But tell your poker buddies you’re playing backgammon and they might think you’ve gone soft.
I’m not entirely sure how I feel about this video. It’s basically a rapper/comic trolling another aspiring rapper via a submitted guest verse, which is followed by a Skype back-and-forth. The man in question (L-$ from Rap is a Joke, which has other, more offensive stuff) has a set-up and performance that are perfectly executed to get the best of his uncomfortable target. And it is perhaps arguable that this is calling out the typical anti-gay, tough-guy attitude that plagues rap (that overt homosexuality is the “next level” of rap is something I hope is true), but still it re-inscribes and perpetuates the typical anti-gay message of the genre with overly stereotypical and aggressive homosexual “advances.” Watch in its entirety if you are gonna watch it because the last minutes are important even if the middle lags a bit: